
Welcome to
The Pair Bond.
My main theoretical orientation is Attachment Theory.
It’s a superbly reliable lens and approach for couples and individuals with relational struggles.
I would love the opportunity to be of help to you in your situation.
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Online sessions available worldwide.
If a person’s connection with significant others is not part of the coping and healing process, then, inevitably, it becomes part of the problem and even a source or re-traumatization.
– Susan Johnson
Connection
We feel our deepest joy and warmest fulfillment in moments of connection. However, our experience in relationships also involves some of the most difficult emotions we’ve ever had. There is a quiet epidemic happening behind closed doors and social masks – private suffering in relationship.


Many couples suffer from chronic negativity and emotional distance.
The struggle is real – patterns of painful interactions lead to chronic stress and tension. Partners find themselves distant, easily triggered, and shut down to each other. They don’t know how to fix the negativity and they’ve lost hope trying.
If this resonates, please know that you are not alone. I help people who are struggling with these kinds of relationship problems.

There is a way to heal the re-wounding cycle. There are effective, evidence-backed approaches and tools that are helping couples and individuals re-connect with themselves, each other, and to have healthy, fulfilling relationships.

My services
My work focuses on the attachment relationship between two people. We address the emotions, longings and needs for connecting with another, repairing the pattern of breakdowns and disconnect that is occurring, decreasing insecurities and the cultivation a secure bond.
Discover and experience:

Effective communication

Successful conflict resolution

Closeness, intimacy

More ease with each other

Emotional security in the relationship

Positive feelings in the bond
My Clients
Couples who reach out to me for assistance cover a wide range – married, domestic partners, straight, LGBTQIA+, dating – and in all stages of relationship development.
Work with individuals addresses relational struggles – partner, family, work, social – and also the creation of a clearer connection with one’s self.
“Attachment to key others is our primary protection against feelings of helplessness and meaninglessness.”
- Alexander MacFarlane, Bessel Van der Kolk

Testimonials
During our sessions, Yaj checks in to see how it's going for us, which allows us to be comfortable and open to exploring our emotions. This work guides us into self inquiry and is a continual road of discovery. We are learning new skills to handle conflict and disagreement. Yaj helps us open up about our differences and helps connect us to our “us” ness. She has helped us through some dark clouds. It wasn’t easy but with her clear perception and guidance we have been able to get to a deeper understanding of each other. We look forward to continual discovery in our wonderful work with Yaj.
We are seeing lots of benefits from the tools you are sharing with us. Just two sessions and I can see a positive shift. We had a good dialogue the other day and it has made me realize I am doing things that don’t bring a peaceful solution existence. I am now in a zone where I see something and I know I need practice to break my habits.
You’ve been awesome teaching, coaching, modeling, listening, being objective and supportive.
We get along a lot better now. I feel better now. To be able to move forward from that is great. It really is a relief.
It’s been life-changing for my husband. It’s amazing how different he is now. He doesn’t get bent out of shape anymore. He doesn't go there and I'm finding it easier to not say the things that used to make him go there. It makes it much more pleasant.
I thank you from the bottom of my heart.
The work can be even more satisfying by being in touch with our leadership style. This is very empowering. When women have high incomes, they tend to dissociate from their money. They feel not worthy. Guilty. “I couldn’t possibly be that good.” We need to be grounded in our worth about money, and engage in the process of trying on and claiming our personal leadership cloak, and wear it with confidence.
Yaj is excellent at guiding me to do just that. I learn something in every session. I take notes and use what I learn in real time at work.
I’ve learned more about myself in the last 12 weeks than I have in the 50 years of my life.
I am a busy mom, entrepreneur and artist, and the flexibility of our phone sessions allowed me to receive the self-care I require and were just as effective for me as in-person sessions.
She offers not only practical solutions and clear steps for taking action, but will help guide you to know your own truth and inner guide. Highly recommended!
I decided to marry myself and let go of the “Prince Charming coming to save me” story I had carried for so long. Of course, Yaj was the one I wanted to perform the ceremony! Her training in ritual and deep knowing of the path to self, combined with my desire for true relationship, co-created a turning point in my life.
I now have physical reminders, photographs, and an emotional reference from the ceremony to solidify this deepened, dedicated relationship with myself. That is forever! It was sacred and beautiful. Thank you, Yaj. You are truly a master who has helped me see my own path.
Couple and Individual Coaching
Quality Help is Available

Couple Coaching
Private sessions with couples work offer a safe place to be heard and seen about your specific challenges and struggles, for partners to get relief from the negative interactive cycles, and for the relationship to get the caring and skilled help it needs to heal and thrive.
Experience the essential shift and learn tools to make it a lasting bond.
My couple sessions are 75 minutes online with video. 90 minute sessions available upon request.

Individual Coaching
Private individual work is an opportunity to address relational issues and struggles with others - and with the self - in a uniquely safe and deep way.
The process of making change happens at your pace with my support for your learning and growing. We explore and address your goals around negative emotional and interactional patterns with others, issues with personal, professional and family relations, and your relationship with your self.
Make strides on your healing path and create change you’ve longed for.
My individual sessions are 60 or 75 minutes online with video.
Contact me
Free Consultation
If you are ready to take the next step, please contact me via email and tell me a bit about your situation. You can also text me directly at the number below. We’ll schedule a time for a free telephone consultation to explore the possibility of working together.
Ready to get started?
